“A problem shared is a problem halved”…. English proverb
I am a HUGE fan of the quotes found on church marquees; and recently discovered there are a HUGE number of internet sites devoted just to these quotes! (though this does kind of disappoint me that MAYBE there isn’t a lone person sitting at a wooden desk coming up with these gems weekly..) I saw the above quote a couple of weeks ago and LOVE it! I was just waiting for the right moment to share my thoughts, and well, here we are! (I had NO idea it was an old English proverb, but while discovering this, I found so many more little bits of joy for later dates!)
Anyhoo, as I have deemed this week to be all about “Encouragement”, I have also decided this post could be a good compliment…..
I do have to admit that though I understand the meaning behind the quote as well as AGREE with it; I don’t always LIVE it. It’s not because I am problem free, or do not have friends and family who are willing to be sounding boards for me; I just have a bad habit of NOT sharing when things are just a little bit LESS Pollyanna than I like. I am aware of this quirk, yet seem powerless to “make the call”. I mull over whatever the problem is, telling myself, “it’s all just life”, it will pass quickly, no need to “bother” anyone and soon enough we’ll be back to normal. But sometimes my “normal” isn’t always so quick and then I begin to think that now too much time has passed, and they may be upset I hadn’t said anything sooner. So under the guise of avoiding even more bad feelings, I go another day, then week…I think you see where I’m going with this!
As with “thank you” cards, and it NEVER being too late to send one, it’s NEVER too late to reach out! I hope my own recent experience with this very thing, stays with me, reminding me of the weightlessness I felt when “someone else knew”. Though I know I should not “vent” about things that have annoyed me (it’s just like reliving the incident, including the negative emotions), reaching out to family or friends is FAR from venting; it’s giving yourself permission to receive support and encouragement (this week’s word!) from a person who is in your life because they WANT to be! While you are receiving the gift of support, the people in our lives GIVING this support is also receiving; receiving the affirmation we do VALUE their opinions as well as just putting VALUE to them as part of our life!
So next time, pick up the phone, and TAKE ADVANTAGE of someone!
“There is nothing better than the encouragement of a good friend”
Katharine Butler Hathaway